Did you know that your relationship with your partner or spouse effects your health? Ask yourself these questions- Are you overeating or finding yourself not hungry? Do you find yourself depressed or overly anxious? Do you have frequent headaches stomach aches or feel chronic pain? Have you been diagnosed with hypertension? If so, you may be experiencing chronic stress due to an unhealthy relationship or marriage.
In fact, you may even be experiencing domestic violence in your relationship. Dr Bessel van der Kolk, World-Leading Trauma Specialist states, “Approximately one third of all couples at some point in their relationship will engage in some form of domestic violence.” Domestic violence can come in many forms including: physical, emotional or sexual abuse.
Are you in a healthy relationship?
- Is my partner willing to communicate openly when there are problems?
- Does my partner give me space to spend time with other people?
- Is my partner kind and supportive?
Are you in an unhealthy relationship?
- Does your partner criticize you and make you feel like everything is your fault?
- Does your partner control where you go, who you talk to and how you spend your money?
- Has your partner hurt or threatened you?
Counseling can be very helpful to provide support to people who are in an unhealthy relationship. EMDR therapy can help to reduce the distress and trauma caused by physical, emotional or sexual abuse experienced in relationships. Receiving support can be especially helpful if you are feeling stuck or trapped in a unhealthy relationship. Therapy can assist you, no matter what your situation is, and provide you with encouragement and motivation should you choose to make a change in your life or relationship.
If you feel unsafe in your relationship please know that it is NOT your fault. You deserve to feel safe and happy. For support call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for toll free 24 hour support in- safety planning, housing options, legal advice and local referrals 1-800-799-7233 and call 911 if you are in immediate danger.
Source: Kaiser Permanente
